I want to encourage every single girl on the planet to write
down a prayer for your future husband. Pray for him as if you already know him.
He probably needs your prayers in some way! He is most likely going through
something right now just like you are, so pray him through it! Pray for him to
see God and His ways. Pray for his confidence in life. Pray for him to have
strength. Pray for him to be a leader, and pray that he won’t just go with the
crowd. Pray for him to resist the devil and pray for him to resist the
temptations of man. Pray for his protection. Pray for him to feel Gods love,
and the presence of God around him. Prayer is such a powerful thing! Start
doing it now, and don’t delay. See what amazing things the Lord will do in His
timing. He has already shown me so much by this, and yet I still have so much
to learn. Prayer is POWERFUL!
I have heard many people use the fact that God already knows
the desires and thoughts of our hearts as an excuse not to pray. Although, He
does know them, He still commands us to, “in every situation, by prayer and
petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6.
Even though He does know every thought of ours and He knows every desire of our
hearts, we are told to present all of our requests known to Him. Prayer is more
for us and expressing our trust and hope in Him.
Even if you have a vision or idea of what your husband may
look or be like, it is important that we define those specific traits in your
life partner. As I expressed before, I want to encourage you all to pray for
your husband but also to make a list too. “God is able to do immeasurably more
than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us.”
Ephesians 3:20. Trust that God WILL bring a godly man into your life someday if
it is His will for your life. It’s as important to make a “husband list” as
well. Not just a short basic list, but a list that has specifics on it. An
example would be, “A man who has a calm temperament and handles stress well.” Don’t
make a list where it says “he has to be a handsome, rich, a prince etc.” The
reason it is so important to put the important qualities you desire into
writing is to hold you accountable as well. You want a man of great character;
like David, “a man after God’s own heart.”
Each one of your lists is going to have unique things
according to what God is telling you to write. But there are some fundamental
traits that God wants to be non-negotiable. Too many young women these days are
settling for less than God’s best because they don’t know exactly how He
expects His daughters to be treated or they think God has given up on them or
forgotten about them. When the time comes there may be guys that try to “sweep
you off your feet.” But PLEASE wait for the guy that God has formed and molded
and will bring into your life. Based on scripture, here is a list of non- negotiable
for you:
1. He is a practicing believer and that you would both be
like minded.
“Do not be yoked together with an unbeliever… For what agreement
is there between the
temple
of God and idols?” 2
Corinthians 6:14-16. Issues and conflicts are bound to rise in marriage, so it
is crucial that there is a common foundation on which to hold the marriage
accountable. I have heard way too many stories of young woman marrying a guy
just because he was “cute, good looking and wooed you with nice words and roses.”
Some of these ladies fell into the trap of the evil one, married these ungodly
men, and in the end had either a divorce or the girl converted to whatever that
young man was believing. Please don’t make the same mistake, and wait for God
to bring the right godly man along.
2. God is the center of his life.
He seeks God’s wisdom in all his decisions he makes.
Proverbs 8:18-19 says, “With wisdom are riches and honor, enduring wealth and
prosperity. My fruit is better than fine gold; what I yielded surpasses choice
silver.” So many guys’ first thoughts in life are football, TV, and more
sports. I’ve read of many young women that said it really helps if the guys
first thought in life is God. In fact, I heard it recommended by Leslie Ludy,
of “Set Apart Ministries” –ask yourself, each time you’re with this guy do you
feel closer to God? Do conversations with him, point you to God?
3. He has integrity and does not put himself in tempting
situations.
He guards you against harm and protects the relationship.
Proverbs 5:8-9, “Keep to a path far from evil, do not near the door of that
house, lest you give your best strength to others.”
4. Seeks mentorship and counsel.
It is important that your man is wise in realizing he can’t
carry the weight of the world on his shoulders without God’s help. Also, when
he is surrounded by God- fearing men who are older than him who can offer
advice, prayer and mentorship, he can be a better husband to you. Proverbs
12:15, “The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.”
5. He is slow to anger.
There is peace knowing your man holds an even temperament
even when he is provoked. A man who allows his feeling, emotions and anger to
determine his actions typically has tarnished relationships and is not a
healthy place for you or your family. Proverbs 15:18, “A hot-tempered person
stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”
6. He holds strong convictions on the sacredness of
fidelity.
A man is wise when he understand that infidelity and looking
for pleasure outside of the marriage only brings strife. God actually calls him
to rejoice over all of his days. Proverbs 5:18-20.
“May your fountain be blessed and may you
rejoice in the wife of your youth… May you be ever captivated by her love? Why
be captivated, my son, by an adulteress?”
7. He is honorable of your heart and emotional well-being.
You need to feel honored and have a safe knowing you can
always trust your husband to cover and speak well of you. Proverbs 5:17, “Let
them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.” 1 Peter 4:8, “Love
each other deeply because love covers all wrongs.”
8. He is disciplined in living a life of integrity.
Watch how he handles temptations or sticky situations that
test his character. Does he choose to do what is right even when nobody is
watching? It is imperative to observe these things because it will indicate if
you can trust his decision making. When you’re married, all of his decisions
will impact you. Proverbs 5:23, “He will die for lack of discipline, led astray
by his own great folly.”
9. He has a solid work ethic.
Proverbs 6:10-11 says, “ A little sleep, a little slumber, a
little folding of the hands to rest- and poverty will come upon you like a
thief and scarcity like an armed man.”
10. He pursues and loves you passionately.
The man you will marry should make you feel loved like
you’ve never felt before. Safe, accepted, desired, nurtured, protected, and
comforted. Yeshua (Jesus) loves us deeply, He loves us so fiercely, and He was willing
to give up His life to save us.
Pursues: “So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But
his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.” Genesis
29:20.
Loves: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the
church and gave Himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:25.
11. He romances you—(After you’re married!)
God desires for your heart to be romanced, just as He longs
to romance us. “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth- for your love is
more delightful than wine.” Song of Solomon 1:2. God created Adam and Eve to be
together as husband and wife, man and female. They loved and cherished each
other, so shouldn’t you long for that in your own marriage some day? “Place me
like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as
death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like a blazing fire, like
a mighty flame.” Song of Solomon 8:6.
12. He is humble and can admit when he is wrong.
Taking responsibility for his actions and apologizing for
his mistakes is the sign of a real man. Like my mom tells my sister and me when
we sometimes argue, “It takes two to start an argument.” Proverbs 16:18 says,
“Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall.”
No person on this earth will be perfect and grace is a beautiful
thing that makes relationships flourish. That being said, this list for single
ladies is to give a basic framework of character traits to look for or
recognize whether or not there is desire for growth. Always trust God. He has
it all in His hands. God always give us what we need, so trust that He’s got a
plan and a purpose for you and He will bring a godly young man into your life
someday.
“For I feel a divine jealousy for you, since I betrothed you
to one husband…” 2 Corinthians 11:2.
Ultimately, your divine Father wants you to be treated in a
way that it is compared with how Christ cares for us. It is up to us though to
believe we are worthy, set the standard, and has the faith that God works in
perfect timing to introduce you to your husband.
I have tried doing something for a couple of
months and I highly suggest that you at least look at these cards and possibly
try them if you would likee. Feel free to print these out if you desire. I saw
these cards of ‘31 days of Praying for my Future Husband’ on a Noble Calling
Blog’ two years ago. They have been wonderful and I love praying for my future
husband and I hope that you will also start praying for your future husband as
well.
1. Pray that he is dead to his sins and alive in Christ,
seeking to follow and obey Him.
Pray that Yeshua
(Jesus) will always be his first love
(Romans 6:11; Matthew 16:24; Mark 12:30)
2. Pray that he loves the Word of God and that he
diligently studies it and applies it to his daily life.
(Joshua
1:8; Psalm 119:11)
3. Pray that he
is a man of prayer
(Colossians 4:2; Romans 12:12; James 5:16)
4. Pray that he will be the spiritual leader for you and
your family,
drawing you closer to the Lord.
(Ephesians
5:25-26; Ephesians 6:4)
5. Pray that he is a protector
(Ephesians
5:25)
6. Pray that he will be a godly provider and that
he is a good
steward of his money.
(Romans
12:11; 1 Timothy 5:8.)
7. Pray that he does not have a love for the world and
that he desires
to please the Lord above all others.
Pray that
his prayer and desire for his life
and family is Joshua 24:15.
(James 4:4; Colossians 3:23; 1 John 2:15; Joshua 24:15)
8. Pray that he believes in and desires
an Ephesians
5:22-23 marriage.
(Ephesians 5:22-23)
9. Pray that he has a love for children
(Psalm
127:3-5)
10. Pray that he is an honorable man of
strong character
and moral integrity.
(Galatians 5:22-23;
Proverbs 28:18)
11. Pray that
he would be humble,
compassionate
and understanding.
(James 4:6,10; Ephesians 4:32; Proverbs 14:29)
12. Pray that he would be quick to hear,
slow to speak
and slow to anger.
(James 1:19)
13. Pray that he will have the courage to resist temptation
and the snares of
the devil. Pray that he is free from all
addictions and not given to earthly loves such as
pornography,
money, lust, greed, anger etc.
(Ephesians
4:27; Romans 12:9; Matthew 26:41)
14. Pray that
he would be the godly head of your home-
Looking to Yeshua (Jesus) as his example and the Bible as
his guide.
(Ephesians 5:23)
15. Pray
that he would be discerning and
grow in
wisdom and self control.
(James 1:5; Proverbs 15:21; Hosea 14:9; Psalm 119:66)
16. Pray that he would commit his ways to the Lord.
(Proverbs 3:5-6; Psalm 37:3-6)
17. Pray that he is quick to repent and ask
forgiveness from
God and others.
(1 John
1:9; James 5:16)
18. Pray that he has a forgiving heart towards others.
(Ephesians 4:32)
19. Pray that he would have a servant’s heart and
a desire to share
the Gospel with others and
be a shinning
light to this dark wolrd.
(Matthew
28:19-20; Matthew 5:14-16)
20. Pray that he is accountable, trustworthy,
and patient.
(Ephesians 4:2-3; James 5:16; Proverbs 28:6)
21. Pray that God’s Word would be a
lamp to his feet and a light to his path.
(Psalm
119:105)
22. Pray that he
would choose friends wisely
and that he would be surrounded by godly examples,
looking to them for godly counsel when necessary.
(Hebrews 10:24; Proverbs 27:17)
23. Pray for his father and that he is a
godly,
honorable man.
Pray that he is a good example of a
husband and father for his son. Pray for their relationship.
(Ephesians 6:4; Exodus 20:12)
24. Pray for
his mother and that she is a godly,
Proverbs 31, Titus 2 woman, living out biblical womanhood
before him. Pray
for his relationship with his mom
as well as
your future relationship with her.
(Exodus 20:12; Titus 2:3-5)
25. Pray for his siblings and his relationship with them.
Pray that they have good relationships with one another.
Pray for your
future relationship with them.
(1 Thessalonians 5:11)
26. Pray that God would put a wall of protection around
your
future husband and his family.
(Psalm 127:7-8)
27. Pray that he desires a suitable helper
(Genesis 2:18)
28. Pray that, by God’s grace, you bring him
good and not bad, all
the days of your life-
even now, before you
are married to him.
(Proverbs 31:12)
29. Pray that God would be molding you into
the wife, helper,
and partner that your
future
husband needs.
(Proverbs
31:10-12)
30. Pray that God
would bring you together in His
perfect time and way; that your relationship would be
honoring to God and
filled with purity; and that His
choice and plan
will be clear to both of you.
(Psalm 37:5-7;
Proverbs 4:23; Psalm 119:9)
31. Pray that your future marriage will be God-honoring
and
Christ-centered; filled with a selfless,
1Corinthians 13 love; always seeking
to serve one another.
(Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8; Ecclesiastes 4:12)
I have one more list of things that you can pray for your
future husband. This list is from “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie
Omartian. Even though I (and I am sure most of you are too) are not married, I
am revising the list a little bit. This list has wonderful ideas for praying
for your future husband. Even though the author wrote this for a wife, we can
still use the list for our future husband; just a little differently.
1. Pray
for his wife (You). Pray that God would show you the areas in your life
that you need to develop and pray that you will be able to have the
character of God. Pray also that God would show you how to develop the
characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman
2. Pray
for his work. Maybe your future husband isn’t working right now, but pray
that he will be able to support you financially when you all are married
and that he will be able to provide a home for you, food, clothing etc.
Pray that he won’t be a couch potato but that he will get up, be productive,
and work.
3. Pray
for his finances. Like I said above, maybe he isn’t working right now and
therefore maybe he doesn’t have finances to deal with. But pray that once
he does start working (in a business for himself, for someone else, or
with missions work) that he will be able to deal and pay for both of your
finances and be wise with y’all’s money.
4. Pray
for his temptations. Pray that even right now and when you all are married
that he will not fall through the trap of watching pornography or being involved
with sexuality. Pray that he will be say no to his temptations and follow
God’s way for his life.
5. Pray
for his affections. Pray that right now he will not chase after each girl
he sees but save his heart and mind for you. Pray that once you all are
married that he may be able to give you the love and affection that you
deserve and that Father has planned for you and him.
6. Pray
for his mind. Pray that he may be able to keep his mind on pure healthy
thoughts and not sinful bad thoughts.
7. Pray
for his fears. Everyone has fears so pray that he will be able to be brave
and not let his fears control him. Help him to know that God will protect
him and get him through life.
8. Pray
for his purpose. As people start graduating from high school they start to
wonder what God’s purpose in life is for them. Whether your future husband
is graduating from high school soon, college, or even at home waiting to
see what God has for him; pray that he will listen to God’s voice and hear
what
eHe ZHHe is telling
him to do in life.
9. Pray
for his choices. Pray that God would help his choices to be honoring to
Him and that his choices would always honor God.
10. Pray
for his health. Pray for his health now and when you all married; that he
may be healthy and take care of the body that God has given him.
11. Pray
for his protection. Pray that God will always protect him now and in the
future.
12. Pray
for his trials. Everyone goes through trials in life, and Satan will try
to tempt and bring trials in his and your life. Pray that he will be able
to stay strong in his faith (like Job) now and when you all are married.
If you all face trials together pray that you all will stay strong in your
marriage and in your faith. Pray that he will always turn to God,
especially during trials.
13. Pray
for his integrity. Pray that he will be honest in everything you speak and
thinks of.
14. Pray
for his priorities. Pray that his priorities are not to watch TV all day
and eat chips but pray that his priorities may be to serve and honor God.
15. Pray
for his relationships. Pray that his relationships may be honoring to God
and if they are not, that he then will have strength to start having
relationships that bring him up and not tear him down.
16. Pray
for his fatherhood. Lord willing you all will be able to have children, so
pray that he will be a loving kind father to your children. A father is
such a big important part in a child’s life, so pray that he will always
set a good example for his children and that he will always be there for
them. Pray that he will be the gentleman that your daughters need and show
your sons how a godly man should act and be.
17. Pray
for his past. Pray that his past would’ve been God-honoring and that he
had a nice loving past with his family, friends, and life.
18.Pray
for his attitude. Pray that he would have the fruit of the spirit
(Galatians 5:22-23.) Pray that his attitude would love and that he would
have a slow to anger spirit.
19. Pray
for his marriage with you. Pray that you all would have a marriage that
brings honor to God, that is loving towards each other, and that you all
would bring each other up and not tear each other down. Pray that you all
would bring each others relationships closer to God.
I hope these suggested lists of prayers were helpful to you
and I hope that you will seriously try to pray for your future husband. You may
have a full list of things you want and don’t want in a future husband but I
highly suggest that you put that list aside and let God bring the right godly
man to you --if His will is for you to even get married in the future. I will
be praying for you, dear reader, that you will hold steadfast and wait for the
appropriate time and man that God will bring to you in the future. Maybe God’s
will isn’t for you to be married or maybe it is. But please don’t be like our
worldly generation; flirting with guys constantly, trying to get guys
attention, and giving your heart to somebody that should’ve been saved for your
husband. God has a plan and a purpose for you, so hold steadfast, pray, and
don’t always sit on your bed day dreaming for that time to come. Use this time
of singleness wisely; spend time with your family, mentor other girls, go on a
missions trip, start a business and most importantly save your heart and
feelings for your future husband. Blessings to you, your future husband, and
this time of waiting for the right one God will bring to your life.
With love,
Kaila
